I found EverythingMinecraft and it is a classic survival server that is whitelisted so it feels more secure and friendly.
You have to do email verification and they say it filters out most trolls. It is meant for people who just want to play survival and build and explore without a bunch of extra stuff.
The server has player profiles and a database tied to your account. They also talk about leaderboards and more features coming soon. You can jump in and make your mark and you do not need Discord to play.
Whitelisted Classic Survival With Profiles

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Cozy Fantasy SMP With Friendly Players

LadyKri SMP is a friendly survival server with a fantasy and cottage core vibe. The world is still new so it feels easy to jump in and start building your own place.
It is mostly chill survival with no PvP unless everyone agrees. The server is meant to keep the Minecraft atmosphere and stay respectful. It is 15 plus and the community is small most of the time even though there are about 53 members right now.
It supports Java and Bedrock and also cracked clients. It is vanilla with a few mods only to help protect your house from stealing items or getting destroyed. Anyone can start the server so people can play in different time zones.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPEmbermire Season 2 Spooky Magic Modpack

Embermire is a spooky and magical modded Minecraft Java server for 1.20.1. Season 2 just started and it is looking for long term players who want to stick around and help build a real community.
You need the required Modrinth modpack and you also need to be in the Discord server. The mod list is made to feel creepy and enchanted with stuff like dungeon mods the Graveyard and a magic mod called Archon.
There is a spawn house plus a starter kit and a community stronghold. It also has a post office and other shared community stuff. Sleeping is set up so one person can skip the night.
KeepInventory is not on but you can get your items back from your grave and it will not despawn. Travel is easier with waystones and you get helpful tools like veinminer and tree harvester. There are also vanilla plus tweaks like wool to string and rotten flesh to leather.
Members must be LGBTQIA plus or an enthusiastic ally and that is a hard rule.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPKonohaven SMP Season 5 Semi Vanilla

Konohaven SMP is a semi vanilla Java survival server and Season 5 just started. The big idea this time is player autonomy so players can run the big choices like spawn plans shopping district rules and the main infrastructure.
People can start committees or groups for stuff like paths nether hub plans or how the shopping area should work. If you disagree you can make your own plan and get others to help too.
The server is on Hard difficulty and it is hosted in the Eastern US in Virginia. It has single player sleep and a live map.
There are a couple extras that stay close to vanilla. Blaze and Caves Advancements are on with less chat spam. There is also an optional Origins datapack and optional Simple Voice Chat mod and you do not need mods to join.
There is no set world border. Chunks will generate out to 1500 at the start to help with early lag and the seed will be public. World gen is getting tweaked to add new features to the vanilla landscape.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPHardcore Ocean Spawn on a 15 Year Map

This server is a true hardcore survival world on version 1.21.11 and it starts you in a huge ocean so the first minutes feel rough. People say you should search for cracks in the ocean floor to find really old mineshafts and grab planks and cobwebs so you can make your first bed.
Death is harsh here but it is not always forever. If you die the community can vote to revive you in game and if nobody helps you then you come back after 24 hours.
It stays basically vanilla and they do not change the vanilla jar. They use a custom chat bot for some cosmetic commands and it adds a homes feature but you only get one home.
They track stuff every day like deaths achievements chat new player first logins lag and average player count and put it in a server newspaper.
There are only two rules which are be respectful and do not try to crash the server. The vibe is relaxed and unstructured and stealing and griefing are allowed so you have to protect your own stuff. Most players are 20 plus and there are people from the US Russia and Poland.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPSemi Anarchy Vanilla Survival No Resets

Anarchy Network is a semi anarchy survival server that tries to feel like real Vanilla Minecraft. It has very few changes so the game stays simple and tough.
The server is online all the time and it supports Java from 1.7.2 up to 1.21.11. It is recommended to play on 1.21.11 so you do not run into issues.
There are no map resets and the world border is set to 2 million blocks so you can go super far. There is no pay to win and there is no teleporting. PvP and griefing are allowed so you should expect danger.
The only non vanilla command is spawn so people far away can get back to civilization. Nether roof access is allowed. Phantoms are removed and only half the players are needed to skip the night.
They do not allow exploits lag machines duping spamming or harassment and racial slurs in chat.
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