The Sleep Deprived

I found a semi vanilla survival multiplayer server that tries to keep the normal vanilla feel but adds extra stuff to make it more fun. It supports cross play for Java and Bedrock though Java is recommended.

The community is meant to be close and friendly. They say they shut down toxicity and drama fast. You can team up on big projects like towns and shopping areas and they also run events where you can win prizes. They also support using Simple Voice Chat.

Rules are clear like no hacking no griefing no stealing and no nonconsensual PvP. The server is not pay to win and the store items can be earned in game. Ranks are earned by getting in game money and you can make money with jobs milestones tasks or running a shop.

There are extra features like McMMO skills art maps and even resizing your character. They also have a Valentines build competition where you rent a plot and build then judges pick the top 3 for prize packs.