SlayerMC Kingdoms

This is a newer survival smp where you can pick how you want to play. You can join the pvp scene or you can declare yourself peaceful. If you are peaceful then no one is allowed to kill you steal from you or grief your builds.

The world has a 4k by 4k border so everyone stays somewhat close. Minecarts are crazy fast and use the new experimental physics so rails are actually good for travel. The server has one player sleep so nights go by quick.

Some annoying stuff is disabled. Phantoms are turned off. Endermen and ghasts do not grief your builds. Ender pearls are disabled too. The server runs in hard mode so mobs still hit hard.

There are some cool survival tweaks. You can sit on stairs. Spawners can be picked up with silk touch. Amethyst buds can also be silk touched. The terrain uses tectonic and terralith world generation and all chunks are preloaded so exploration feels awesome.

There are rules about griefing and pvp with more info on the server. You have to apply to join since it is whitelist so it feels safer and more chill. It seems like a good place if you want a small survival world where combat is a choice and not forced.