I found Anarchy.ae and it is a long term semi anarchy survival server that does not wipe. It has been running for 4 months and it is meant to keep going so your builds are not just going to vanish.
PvP is on and raiding is on and griefing is on. There is no pay to win stuff and there are no kits and there are no land claims so you have to protect your own base.
It has /tpa and homes that come from voting. The server runs on dedicated hardware in the EU and it aims for smooth 20 TPS.
You can join on Java or Bedrock and it is crossplay with vanilla movement. It is a smaller server so it can take time to meet people and figure out who to trust.
