I found a chill modded Minecraft server called The Ferox Concordium. It is run by a small group of friends and the community is welcoming and still growing.
The server is always online and people actually play on it. It is running the Divine Journey 2 modpack on Forge for Minecraft 1.12.2.
Staff and owners are around a lot and they help when you have questions or need help. You have to join their Discord to get verified so they can keep things safe and fun.
It is 16 plus only and you need to be respectful.
Active Divine Journey 2 Modded Server
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I found a Minecraft server that is running on 1.21.20 and it is crossplay compatible so different platforms can play together.
It is aimed at girlies who want a place to talk game and just have fun. They do events weekly and also monthly so there is usually something going on.
There is a verification process and it sounds really simple. They do it to help keep everyone safe.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP