I found a server called MinecraftOffline and it is all about lifesteal and anarchy. You can fight people and losing feels brutal since the gameplay is built around hearts getting taken.
It runs on version 1.21.11 and it has a zero reset policy so the world is meant to last. The server is hosted in Finland so it is aimed at good connections for Europe.
It also says it uses custom plugins and it lists strong hardware so it is trying to stay stable even when things get chaotic.
Snow Fall SMP is a chill semi vanilla survival server for Java and Bedrock players who want a friendly place to build and hang out. It is 16 plus and the goal is to keep it safe and welcoming so people can make new friends and have fun.
This server is strict about rules like no pvp griefing stealing hacking discrimination or other toxic behavior. It is meant to feel fair and relaxed for everyone.
New players fill out a short application first so the staff can verify you are a real person and not a bot.
The server runs frequent community events so there is usually something going on. It also has a few cosmetic and quality of life extras like multiplayer sleep customizable elytras armor stand posing wearable items and more.
LilacMC is a Towny survival server that is trying to be fun and friendly for everyone. It has a player driven economy so players control trading and prices and there are no admin shops.
The server has been running for close to 5 years and it has never had a reset and they say they do not plan to reset.
It also has Towny and mcMMO plus other core features and some custom stuff made just for this server. One big thing is Lilac Saplings with over 200 custom trees you can use to decorate your base.
There is a custom Lilac Mob Arenas system with different difficulties and buffs and debuffs and challenges and maps and mobs. They also changed farming fishing and mining with custom ways to do them so endgame players have more to work on.
It supports Minecraft versions 1.21.4 through 1.21.11.
Adults Night Out is an 18 plus Minecraft place for people who want a calmer server without kids and random chaos. It feels like a hangout spot where you can play Minecraft or just talk while you do other stuff.
The server has active management and it keeps getting worked on with lots of custom features. They try to bring that big server feeling without the drama and they keep up with major updates.
Your builds are protected from grief and theft using CoreProtect and a custom land claiming plugin that is made to be easy to use. There are daily rewards for logging in too.
It also runs Slimefun for modpack style machines and gadgets and lore. It has mcMMO so you can level skills like mining swords and fishing for perks and bragging rights.
They say the server runs on dedicated hardware that is managed by a real sysadmin so it stays smooth even with heavier features.
World of Sidürgate is a civilizations server with organic roleplay and storytelling. People make a character and then choose what kind of nation they want to build based on their own ideals.
The world is meant for journeying and exploring. You can build a grand kingdom or play as a sorcerer or a knight while you travel around.
It runs on Java 1.21.4 and it has a vanilla plus style. There is unique world generation plus dungeons plus custom recipes and more. A lot of the features and plugins are made in house and more updates are planned.
The world border is currently 9k by 9k and it is planned to grow after events. The server has dozens of active members and it keeps growing.
Luminary Falls is a cozy long term SMP for adults who want survival that still feels like vanilla. It runs on Minecraft 1.21.11 and it is whitelist only with an 18 plus community.
The server has a story rich community vibe and lots of people online across different time zones. It is LGBTQ plus friendly and the staff has years of server experience.
It plays like classic survival but uses quality of life plugins and datapacks that help things feel smoother without turning it into pay to win. It is Java with full Bedrock crossplay and it allows non advantage client mods like Litematica Xaeros Sodium and Dynamic Lights.
They use resource worlds so the main world does not need to reset and builds can stay for years. People show up to build explore farm do redstone and join community events.
All Outta Blocks is a community centered survival server made by players for players. It goes for a Hermitcraft style SMP feel with a diamond based economy and a shopping district. People also work on public builds and bigger projects together.
A lot of players use proximity chat so it feels more social when you run into someone. The server tries to keep the vanilla experience while still adding small cosmetic and quality of life stuff that the community asks for and votes on.
It is Java only on Minecraft 1.21.11. It is whitelisted and 18 plus only. There are usually around 5 to 20 people online during the day and there are groups looking for new members.
CaveMC is a semi anarchy survival server with an enhanced vanilla feel. The big twist is the entire overworld is underground so there is no surface at all. It is just caves biomes resources and structures all the way down.
Season 2 is a fresh start with a bunch of additions. The survival sounds brutal and it feels like you have to be smart and tough to last.
There is also a new Wasteland Dimension that opens on November 8th. It brings new gear to fight for huge mega structures with secrets and a unique currency that kicks off its own player driven economy. It also has a new spawn and a custom generated map with special features.
HomesteadCraft is a 21 plus Java SMP that stays chill and tries to keep drama out. The main thing is the world does not reset and it is been running for 4 years. That makes it great for huge builds and long projects since the map only expands when updates happen.
It runs on Java 1.21.11 with a few quality of life plugins. There is one player sleep and the server is on normal difficulty. There are also skills and loot style plugins plus anti grief claims.
There is a player run shopping district and a gaming island. There are separate resource worlds for the overworld and nether and the End and the End resets weekly. There is no required playtime and most plugins can be toggled off if you want a more plain survival feel.
Remnant SMP is a survival multiplayer server with a twist that changes how dying works.
When you die you become a remnant. Your friends can craft remnant shards and there are 4 different shards they can make to revive a player.
If you want to join you apply through their Discord.