I found LumaMC and it is a survival multiplayer server that stays close to vanilla but adds plugins that make it feel more alive. You can claim land and even protect chests so your builds feel safe. It also has Towny so people can make towns and live together.
The worlds are meant to last and there are also resource worlds that reset so you can keep mining and gathering without ruining the main place. There is a player economy with shops plus player warps and a set home command. You can also use private vault storage.
There are jobs and quests and chat games and in game ranks. You can get crate keys and there are custom armor and tools. It also has custom items plus paintings plus fishing plus furniture and events.
They run anti lag plugins and anti xray and the staff is active. Mobs can be resized big or small and there is even a world map view. The server supports Java and Bedrock on 1.21.11 and they say the community is friendly and welcoming. English only and they allow minimum cussing.
LumaMC Survival Towny Java and Bedrock
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPWHITELISTED VANILLA SMP BUILDERS WANTED
GangWYA MC is a Java 1.21.11 vanilla SMP that stays online 24/7 and keeps a pure survival feel. It is whitelisted so you need Discord to apply before you can play.
When you join you spawn in a central hub then you pick where to go. There is a brand new Season 2 world for a fresh start. There is also a Season 1 world that has over 2300 in game days and a lot already built out. There is a creative superflat too for planning and testing builds.
This server is for people who love building big stuff like mega bases towns castles and full cities. It is meant to be chill and long term so you can actually stay with your builds and keep growing them over time.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP