I found a chill long term SMP that is meant for people who want to play at their own pace and just build and survive.
They say the world has no resets so you can stick around and keep your progress. The community is supposed to be active and relaxed with no griefers and no drama.
There is a simple economy plus voice chat. PvP is optional since there is a toggle. It also has a Bedrock port for people who want to join that way.
Lounge SMP Chill No Reset Survival
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPNo Reset Semi Vanilla SMP With Voice
Active staff teambedrock crossplay readybuild focused playerscasual survival grindsimple trading economy
I found a long term SMP that is trying to keep one world going for the long run. It is made for people who want progress to actually matter since there are no resets.
The community is chill and active and the server gets managed a lot with constant improvements. There is unscripted lore so players can help shape what happens next.
It also has a simple economy plus voice chat. PvP can be toggled so you can choose when you want to fight. There is also a Bedrock port listed for Bedrock players.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP