I found a survival server that started as a friend group thing during COVID and it kept growing into a welcoming community.
It is open to join with no whitelist and it runs on version 1.21.11. It is on Hard difficulty and KeepInv is off so dying actually matters.
There are no land claims so you have to play fair. The server is strict about no griefing and no hacking.
Trading is based on raw gold and players make shops. It stays pretty simple with a few quality of life things like invisible item frames and chest locking. You also get /sethome and /spawn.
It is friendly to technical players and TNT duping is allowed. Bedrock breaking is also enabled. If you want a starter kit you can ask in chat.
