I found a modded server called Mech Rehabilitated that is built for a fun and friendly small community. It sounds like the kind of place you hop on after work or classes and just chill with people.
The modpack is huge with over 300 mods so there is a lot to do. The vibe is exploration and looting giant structures then fighting bosses and chasing that infinite power feeling.
If you are more of a humble farmer type there are lots of cooking recipes too. The post mentions mods like Create Alexs Mobs and Caves Terramity Farmers Delight with a bunch of addons Cataclysm Etched and Littlepictureframes for community movie nights.
The server just came back with a brand new version of the modpack and a clean slate. To join you fill out a short whitelist form and they review it.
Mech Rehabilitated Modded Adventure Reloaded
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPChill Forge Modded Survival 24 7
This is a tiny modded forge server that feels like a small group of friends hanging out.
It is survival and friendly and they do not want griefing. People still get into some spicy fights but it is all in good fun and everyone seems to chill out after.
The server uses Create and a bunch of addons so there are cool machines and moving builds. There is Herobrine for creepy stuff and Cataclysm for big scary fights. There are also mods like McCaws bridges lights and furniture so bases can look really nice.
You can farm with Farmers Delight carry your stuff with backpacks and move things with Carry On. There are more mods too so the world feels packed and different from normal Minecraft.
If you want a small survival server with mods where people actually notice when you log in this one fits that pretty well.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPRipleys Create Mod Forge World
This server is a modded world that uses Forge and is all about the Create mod. The owner made a custom pack and tried to keep it as optimized as they can.
The main idea is to build machines and cool setups with Create and slowly build up a nice small community. It feels like a place for people who like technical builds and also want chill players around them.
If you are interested you are supposed to send a message to the owner or check out the modpack first. There are no extra rules written but it sounds like they want like minded people who actually want to play together and not ruin things.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP