FiveFates SMP is a long term lifesteal style world where everyone is 18 or older and the vibe is not super sweaty.
You can chill and build and make friends but you can also start rivalries and fight other players. PvP is allowed and stealing loot is allowed too so you always have to watch your back.
There are limits on griefing so people cannot just destroy everything for no reason. You also get 5 lives so death actually matters and makes fights feel more intense.
It feels like a place where you can hang out on a long survival world have some drama and battles but still have a home that is not totally ruined.
FiveFates 18+ Lifesteal SMP
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This is an adult only vanilla style SMP that feels a lot like Hermitcraft. It has a main survival world with a player made diamond economy. There is a shopping district and a nether roof hub so traveling and trading with other players is really easy.
The server adds some small quality of life stuff but stays close to vanilla. There is proximity voice chat so you can talk to people near you. There are invisible item frames custom music discs custom images and poseable armor stands so builds can look and sound really cool.
The community is pretty active. Usually there are between 5 and 30 players online and there are many more hanging out on the discord. They like new people and want you to join and see if it feels like home.
The players help decide how the server runs. The owners say they do not add things or change things without asking the community first. If you have ideas or suggestions they will listen.
There are no limits on redstone or massive projects. You can build big farms mega bases or whatever you want. The goal is to give you the freedom of single player but with other people around so it feels more fun.
The server runs on the latest version of Minecraft and has an online world map you can view.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPTPO SMP Survival Community
TPO SMP is a simple survival multiplayer server.
It feels like a small chill place where you just join and start playing survival with other people.
There is a website for the server too so it looks like they are trying to keep things a bit organized.
If you just want a normal SMP to hop on and play this one seems like that kind of server.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP