So this server is called Broomstix and it is an SMP that also lets you be creative with builds. It runs the newest version and it works for both Java and Bedrock so you can play with friends even if they are on different devices.
The difficulty is set to hard so mobs actually hurt and you kind of have to try if you want to survive. There are custom enchantments that make gear feel special and you can even put a lead on mobs so they teleport with you which is super helpful.
On Sundays you get free fly in the overworld so it is way easier to explore and build cool stuff. The server has land claiming using ProtectionStones so people cannot just grief your base. There is no grief allowed and the main PvP arena has keep inventory so you can fight without losing everything.
There is a bartering style economy with server shops and a public market plus some tutorial warps to help new players figure stuff out. You can use random teleport in the overworld to find new spots and there are commands like homes sethome tpa and private messaging to move around and talk quickly.
The staff seem really responsive and they even offer homework help on their Discord which is kind of funny but also nice if you are stuck on something. The server also links Minecraft chat with Discord so you can still hang out with the community even when you are not in game.

