I found Broomstix SMP and it is a hard difficulty server that works for both Java and Bedrock players. It runs on the latest version with backwards compatibility so people can still get in.
The server has custom enchantments and a cool trick where you can put a lead on mobs to teleport them. There is land claiming with ProtectionStones and the rules say no grief so your builds can stay safe.
There is a bartering economy system plus server shops and a public market. You can also use homes and private messaging and player teleport commands so it is easy to meet up.
PvP is mostly in an exclusive main arena and you keep inventory there. Random teleport is allowed in the overworld and every Sunday you get free fly in the overworld.
The community stuff is strong too with Minecraft and Discord integration and responsive staff. They even do homework help on Discord and there are voting ranks and rewards and tutorial warps.
