I found a server that is already running and it is trying to avoid that same old problem where people get stacked too fast and everyone quits. This one is a 1.21.11 Fabric semi anarchy server with light quality of life mods. It says it is not pay to win and nothing is game breaking.
The big moment is the Nether opening at 3:00 PM UTC. That is when the rush starts for quartz and nether gold and ancient debris. The world is still fresh so it feels like you are not late and there are no unstoppable empires yet.
They also say there are in game rewards plus community events and invite rewards. The server is being developed for the long term and not just a one week hype thing.
Nether Opens 3PM UTC Fresh Start
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP24 7 Survival PvP Community Server
I found a Minecraft Java Edition server that runs survival with PvP and a community vibe. It is online 24 7 so you can hop on whenever.
It is on version 1.21.11 and it has ViaVersion and ViaBackwards. That means people can join from multiple versions which is really nice.
They also run events and they have active staff. The gameplay is meant to feel smooth and you can find updates and players through their Discord.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP