I found a semi vanilla survival server that is built to last and not wipe all the time. The world is already 4 months old and it has a small but steady group of players each day.
It runs on version 1.21.11 and the world border is huge at 1m by 1m. The server says it has dedicated EU hardware and it aims for around 20 TPS.
Spawn is not safe at all. You have to escape on your own or trust somebody and both choices can go bad fast.
It has TPA and vote ranks and your homes are tied to voting. It also says no admin abuse and no pay to win. Dupes are patched and most exploits are allowed but movement hacks and xray are blocked. No resets are planned.
