I found a new survival server that lets Java and Bedrock players play together. It is lifesteal so fighting actually matters and you can mess with people a lot.
The world border is huge at 10000 by 10000 so there is room to hide bases and roam. The vibe is basically do whatever you want but there is one big rule. No nukes because it can shut the server down for good.
The owner says they will try to keep it open 24 7. If you want chaos and random fights this one fits.
