I found a new lifesteal server that just started with a small friend group and it feels like a fresh place to fight and survive for a long time.
It is a clean lifesteal setup and it is balanced so it does not feel broken. The server is focused on PvP and long term survival without a bunch of extra complicated stuff.
It also has Java and Bedrock crossplay so more people can join together. The world is pre generated to help with chunk lag and there are leaderboards for kills and K D. There is combat logging protection plus clean chat with minimal spam.
It runs 24 7 and it is still early so joining now means you get in before everything is established.
Obsidian Empire Lifesteal PvP Survival

GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPBastion SMP 21+ Long Term Semi Vanilla

Bastion SMP is a 21 plus semi vanilla survival world that is meant to last for a long time. It is run by the host who is a software engineer and they care a lot about keeping the server stable and keeping the world file safe.
The server is whitelisted so random griefers do not get in. The vibe is mature and chill with no drama and the group is supposed to be good neighbors.
It keeps the normal Minecraft feel but has basic anti grief stuff and some quality of life options. The community votes together on what QoL features get added like home or tpa.
Rules are simple. No griefing no stealing and no hacking. Be respectful and do not be a jerk.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPCozy Semi Vanilla Java SMP

I found a simple cozy SMP that is semi vanilla and runs on Java.
It feels like a straightforward place where you just join in and play survival with other people. The whole point is keeping it cozy and easy to get into.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP
