I found a community based survival server that is whitelisted and aimed at mature players. It is built for people who like to work together and make a world they can stick with for a long time.
The gameplay is vanilla first with a few quality of life changes. Phantoms are turned off and endermen cannot mess up your builds and shulkers drop double shells.
The world border starts small and grows every day and it is currently 5000 by 5000. They also use Simple Voice Chat so you can talk while you play.
They focus on anti grief protection and respectful standards. They also plan to do community events later.
Mature Whitelisted Vanilla SMP That Lasts
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPBordered Vanilla Plus Survival With Origins
Bordered is a new Vanilla plus survival server on 1.20.1 with a twist that changes the whole world feel.
The world border starts small at 500 by 500 and it grows every time someone joins. That means the map opens up as the community grows so early players get a real head start.
It also runs Origins so you can pick from lots of custom options and the owner is still taking suggestions. There is Lifesteal too so if you kill a player they lose a heart and you gain it. If you die to the environment you do not lose hearts.
It is opening 2 6 and people can join now for testing.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP