I found a semi vanilla SMP server where the community and building side feels like the main thing. It also has an economy that runs on diamonds so trading and shops actually matter.
Players can claim land using golden shovels so your builds stay protected. There are player shops plus a shops menu so you can browse stuff fast or set up your own place.
It supports Java and Bedrock crossplay so more friends can join. There is also a live world map you can open in a browser.
The server has separate resource worlds so the main world stays cleaner. It is true survival and PvE focused with no griefing and no keep inventory. They also run weekly events and you can earn ranks and vote rewards just by playing.
