I found Moshpit SMP and it feels like survival that still keeps a vanilla vibe but it does not try to be super strict.
There are no land claims so you can build anywhere and people can raid too so it can get wild. It supports both Bedrock and Java so more friends can play together.
It has player shops plus an auction house and duels if you want to make quick cash. There are custom enchants that are meant to stay balanced like 3×3 drills and lifesteal.
The world has custom terrain that still looks normal. PvE gets harder the farther out you go and there are random world events every 30 minutes that can help or hurt or just be weird.
The owner says they are active and keep changing stuff based on feedback and the server runs fine even on low end PCs.
