I found a server called Aethron and it is a Java 1.21.11 Towny survival server. It is still pretty new and it has been up for about a month with around 15 players so far.
The world feels more wild because it runs datapacks like Terralith Incendium and Nullscape plus more. You can explore and build towns and help shape how the place feels while it is still growing.
People are active during the day but sometimes it gets quiet. It seems best for players who want to be part of the foundation and not just lost in a huge crowd.
Fresh Towny World Needs Founders
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPOathwood Semi Vanilla Calm Survival
Oathwood is a cozy semi vanilla server that feels made for long term survival and light roleplay.
People build up village life with towns and nations. There is progression you earn over time and an economy that uses diamonds. Players can run their own shopkeepers so trading feels more real.
It also has simple voice chat so towns feel alive when people are around. There are a few quality of life features like TreeFeller and Sit that keep things comfortable without losing the vanilla feel.
The pace is relaxed and the goal is to build something meaningful that lasts. It is described as a calm home for adult players.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP