I found LumaMC and it is a survival multiplayer server that stays close to vanilla but adds plugins that make it feel more alive. You can claim land and even protect chests so your builds feel safe. It also has Towny so people can make towns and live together.
The worlds are meant to last and there are also resource worlds that reset so you can keep mining and gathering without ruining the main place. There is a player economy with shops plus player warps and a set home command. You can also use private vault storage.
There are jobs and quests and chat games and in game ranks. You can get crate keys and there are custom armor and tools. It also has custom items plus paintings plus fishing plus furniture and events.
They run anti lag plugins and anti xray and the staff is active. Mobs can be resized big or small and there is even a world map view. The server supports Java and Bedrock on 1.21.11 and they say the community is friendly and welcoming. English only and they allow minimum cussing.
