I found MCBloodlines and it is a brand new hardcore SMP that is invite only. It is built to make people play in groups and slowly build up real civilizations over time.
The cool part is only players who are already invited can invite new people. It makes the community grow in a more natural way and it helps keep random trolls out.
There are also secret tweaks and mechanics that you are not given guides for. Players have to figure stuff out on their own which makes paying attention actually matter.
It also has a clan and family system so you do not just spawn alone in a hardcore world. You join because someone invited you so you start as part of a group and a story that keeps going.
Hardcore Bloodlines Civilization SMP
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I found a hardcore SMP that is trying to feel like those Minecraft civilization videos but it runs all the time and it is not just a one time event.
It is invite only and the only way new people get in is if someone already inside invites them. This is meant to keep the community active and help avoid trolls.
The server has secret tweaks and mechanics and they do not give you guides. You are supposed to figure things out yourself which makes paying attention really matter.
There is also a built in clan and family system so you do not just show up alone in a hardcore world. You join as part of a group and you end up being part of an ongoing story.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP