I found a modded Minecraft network called TMW that is for English speaking players who want a community. It has a few servers running different modpacks and they say more are on the way.
The server list includes All the Mods 10 and All the Mods 10 To the Sky plus All the Mons and GT New Horizons and NanoMagic and Stoneblock 4 and Submerged 2. It feels like a place where you can swap packs when you get bored and still keep playing with people.
They host in the EU and they share their machine specs like a Ryzen 9950X with 192GB DDR5 and Samsung 990 Pro SSD storage plus a big backup server. They also talk about a smooth experience and playing with friends or meeting new ones.
TMW Modded Network Mega Pack Hub
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPCrown SMP Quest Survival With Optional PvP
Crown SMP is a survival server with player choice PvP so you can toggle combat in the main survival world. If you want forced fighting there is a dedicated PvP world where it is always on and it feels like risk vs reward.
Building is protected with land claims and it keeps your stuff safe if you claim it. Unclaimed land is fair game so it pushes you to be smart and plan where you live.
The server has a huge quest system with over 10000 quests and it is built around gameplay progression. You can explore and grind and finish objectives at your own pace.
There are jobs so you can earn money from things like mining farming and building. It also has leveling and prestiges for long term progression plus a balanced economy with chest shops player trading and carefully tuned server shops.
Extra stuff includes a mob arena with scalable rewards custom enchants and redstone powered flight that uses fuel instead of commands. There are also custom worlds like the survival world a resource world with regular resets and a PvP arena world and they are also looking for staff and players.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP