Stormy Lagoon is a long term SMP that supports Java and Bedrock crossplay. It feels fair and balanced and it also says it is not pay to win since ranks and perks are earnable.

The server has custom progression with Stormy Items that level up and can get abilities. There is also custom combat gear like a trident shield and spear. You can do daily missions with three tasks each day and work on quest milestones for bigger long term rewards.

It runs mcMMO so you can level skills like combat mining and fishing. The economy is player driven so people can buy sell and trade. You can earn rewards through activity like Pearls Diamonds and rank progress then spend Pearls in a shop for perks ranks and cosmetics.

For safety it uses strong claim protection with permissions so your stuff is harder to mess with. PvP is consensual so you can toggle it on or off. There are multiple worlds with an RTP menu and monthly resource worlds so the main world does not get trashed.