RevivalSMP is a survival server with custom lifesteal. If you kill someone you can steal hearts. If you die you lose hearts. When you hit 0 hearts you do not get banned and you become a ghost instead.
A player can visit your grave and give up one of their own hearts to revive you. Enemies can also loot your grave chest if they have a Graveyard Key. If nobody revives you then you stay stuck in the Graveyard for 5 real days and then you auto revive.
It also has a duels system with 1v1 arena fights and ranked leaderboards and you do not lose hearts there. There is a bounty system so players can put a price on someone and hunters can go after them.
There are Community Worlds where players can upload a world invite friends toggle PvP and build with full creative freedom. There is also an AFK World that is a safe zone for going AFK.
The server supports Java and Bedrock crossplay. It has cosmetics and ranks like trails wings halos and glow effects. The world border is huge at 60 million by 60 million. It says it is not pay to win and it is free to play with cosmetics only.
RevivalSMP Lifesteal With Ghost Graves

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You can gain hearts by killing players or by crafting hearts. When you die you lose a heart and if you lose all your hearts you get a temp ban until someone revives you.
It is free to play and the community is still growing so it feels easy to jump in.
The rules are pretty strict about fair play. No hacking or exploits and no doxxing or 18 plus content. No spam and no excessive language and no advertising. They also do not allow alts or combat logging.
Discord has rules too like no sharing personal info and follow Discord ToS and the law. Spam goes in spam channels and ads go only where they belong. No 18 plus content there either.
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