I found this server called MinecraftOffline and it is based in Finland so it is really good for people in Europe. The main world is permanent so your builds will not get wiped all the time and that makes it feel like a long term place to play.
The server runs on strong hardware with a Xeon processor NVMe storage and a lot of RAM so it feels made for stable performance. It also uses a custom plugin suite but it still feels close to normal Minecraft just with extra polish.
The version right now is 1.21.11 so it is pretty up to date. The whole setup looks like it is focused on good performance and a long lasting world instead of flashy gimmicks.
The community hangs out on Discord and the vibe seems like people who want a steady chill server where you can keep playing on the same map for a long time.
MinecraftOffline EU Survival World
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPEndergrove 18+ Modded SMP Community
Endergrove is an 18 plus Minecraft community for adults who just want to chill and play together with no drama. Everyone here acts like grown ups and the vibe is relaxed and friendly.
They play on a huge modpack that was built from the ground up using ideas from the players. There are over four hundred mods mixed with magic tech and exploration so there is always something new to do. The pack also has a lot of quality of life and performance mods so the game feels smooth if your computer can handle big packs.
The owners update the modpack a lot and they actually listen to suggestions from the community. You can even grab the pack on Curseforge and try it or look at the mod list before you join.
New players have to use Discord voice chat for verification so people know you are real and actually an adult. Overall it feels like a calm place for older players who like modded Minecraft and want a stable and cooperative server.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPPurpleSMP Long Term Crossplay Survival
PurpleSMP is a small survival server that is trying to be long term and not just vanish one day. The owner made it because they were tired of putting a ton of time into worlds that just get deleted.
The server uses mcMMO so you level up skills and get stronger over time. It feels like your character actually grows the more you play.
You can claim land with GriefPrevention so your builds and chests stay safe from other players. There is also TogglePvP so you can turn fighting on or off whenever you want.
There are extra vaults that act like backpacks so you can carry more stuff on your adventures.
The server is crossplay so people on pc console and mobile can all play together. Discord is required so ranks can sync but everything else is focused on just playing and staying for the long run.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPPurpleSMP Long Term Survival Crossplay
PurpleSMP is a small survival world that is meant to last a long time. The owner made it because they were tired of putting tons of hours into SMPs that just get deleted.
The server has mcMMO so you can level up skills just by playing normally. It also uses GriefPrevention so you can claim land and keep your builds safe from griefers.
PvP is not forced. You can use a toggle to turn PvP on or off whenever you want which makes it nice for people who like to build or chill.
There are extra vaults for more storage so you can keep your good items safe. The server is crossplay so you can join from PC console or mobile.
You have to join the Discord to play so the community can be managed better and everyone follows the rules.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP