I found EverythingMinecraft and it is a classic survival server that is whitelisted so it feels more secure and friendly.
You have to do email verification and they say it filters out most trolls. It is meant for people who just want to play survival and build and explore without a bunch of extra stuff.
The server has player profiles and a database tied to your account. They also talk about leaderboards and more features coming soon. You can jump in and make your mark and you do not need Discord to play.
Whitelisted Classic Survival With Profiles
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPGodzillaXD Never Reset Survival
This server is called GodzillaXD and it is all about a world that never resets. That means every build and every project can stay forever and keep getting bigger.
You can join on bedrock and there is support for older clients too. There is no voice chat so you do not have to talk if you do not want to.
The players on here seem pretty good and they care about the long term world. It feels like a place where you can slowly make your mark and not worry that everything will be wiped.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP