I found a server called HermitLike that is starting Season Two and it feels like a HermitCraft inspired SMP. It is only about two weeks old so it is still early game and a lot of people are already active.
It runs on 1.21.11 and it supports crossplay so Java and Bedrock players can be in the same world. That means PC and consoles can play together.
The server stays mainly vanilla with just a few quality of life and moderation plugins. There are no teleports and no warps and no towny style stuff and no land claiming.
They say it is no pay to win with no voting and no crates. The rules are peaceful with no PvP and no stealing and no griefing so your builds and items are meant to stay safe.
There is a starting village at spawn that you can join and later there will be a communal shopping district. They also have an online live map and a staff team watching for trouble and helping people settle in. They also do events and the discord is active.
HermitLike Season Two Crossplay Vanilla SMP
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPCozy Whitelisted Survival With Lasting Worlds
Farmlands SMP is a cozy survival server that feels small and friendly. It is whitelisted so you have to apply to join and it is made for people who like to take their time.
The main world is meant to last so big bases and long projects actually matter. You can build farms and huge ideas and not worry about your work getting wiped.
There is also a separate resource world that resets regularly. That way people can gather blocks without messing up the main world.
The rules are simple and strict. No griefing no stealing and no toxicity. It stays close to vanilla but has a few quality of life features plus a custom advancement pack for extra challenges.
The economy is player driven and you can trade or open a shop. There are no ranks and no pay to win so effort is what counts.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPBetaBuddies Classic Beta 1.7.3 SMP
This server is called BetaBuddies and it runs Minecraft beta 1.7.3. It tries to feel like Minecraft did back in 2011. Everything is vanilla so it feels really simple and classic.
The community is supposed to be small but active. The whole point is to just chill and be creative with other people who like the old version of the game.
There are clear rules. No griefing and no stealing and no cheating. You are not allowed to post gross or offensive stuff like gore or racist and sexist memes. People also have to be kind to each other because bullying is not allowed at all.
If you want a calm beta 1.7.3 survival server where people try to be nice and just have fun this one fits that style.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPBetaBuddies Chill Vanilla Survival
This server is called BetaBuddies and it feels like a simple vanilla world where people just try to be nice.
The rules are super clear. No griefing no stealing and no cheating. People are not allowed to post offensive memes or anything with gore racism or sexism. Hate symbols are not allowed at all. Bullying is not ok and they want everyone to be kind.
It looks like a place where you can just relax and play Minecraft with others who actually respect the rules and just want to have fun together.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP