I found this server called GoPlay and it feels really focused on being fair and fun.

The server is built as a community first Minecraft network. It is trying to make multiplayer feel smooth social and enjoyable again. There is no pay to win stuff and the gameplay is kept clean so it does not feel cluttered.

Right now they have a few main modes. There is SMP for people who like survival with others. There is Skyblock for grinding your own floating island. There is Arcade and also a Vanilla mode if you just want a classic style game.

The owner talks a lot about doing updates the right way instead of rushing them. The server is meant to be long term and the moderation is fair. They are also privacy focused and want a friendly community where people can just relax and play.

Overall it feels like a good place if you want a simple multiplayer server without pay to win and with people who actually care about how the server runs.