I found this SMP that is made for people who are tired of boring servers. The owner got sick of worlds that die in a week and decided to make something different.
On this server you can play how you want. If you just want to chill build farms and vibe you can do that and people will leave you alone. If you want to sweat do PvP start conflict or act like it is factions that is also totally fine.
There is no extra grind added just to waste your time. There is no fake cozy roleplay stuff and the staff are not trying to control every move you make. The rules are simple because everyone is expected to act like normal people without a huge rule book.
The whole idea is to keep the world going for a long time so it does not die after the first week. Different playstyles can exist together. Some people can relax while others fight and push hard and both ways of playing still fit on the server.

