So I found this server called ChillGrindSMP and it is just a simple Java survival world that feels really relaxed.
It runs on version 1.20.10 and it uses ViaVersion so people on a bunch of different Java versions can still join together. That makes it easier if you do not like updating all the time.
The main thing here is no griefing. People are not allowed to wreck your builds or steal your stuff so you can actually spend time building and grinding without worrying about it getting ruined.
There is a gravestone plugin too. When you die your items go into a grave so you do not just lose everything. It makes the server feel less stressful because one mistake does not destroy your whole progress.
They also have a simple player economy. It is not super complex and it is meant to be easy for everyone to use. It fits the chill style of the server.
There is no pay to win stuff at all. No crates and no weird monetization tricks. Everyone plays on the same level which is nice if you are tired of servers that sell power.
The community is small and pretty chill and it feels welcoming if you just want a place to relax grind and build with other players.
ChillGrindSMP – No P2W Survival

GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPWarlord Realm Semi Anarchy Vanilla SMP

Warlord Realm is a semi anarchy survival server that tries to stay very close to true vanilla. There are no extra features trying to push you in a certain direction. You just join the world and do what you want and the players create the story.
The server is open to both Java and Bedrock players and everyone plays together in the same world. It is hosted in Singapore so it is really good for SEA players and still fine for other regions. It runs all day and only goes down once in a while.
The main focus is freedom and real player conflict. PvP is active and there are alliances betrayals and random fights. There is no hand holding and no fake safety. If you like organic chaos and fair fights this fits you.
There is only one rule. No hacks and no cheats. Stuff like x ray hacked clients or illegal mods are not allowed and will be punished. Besides that you are free to live however you want.
Right now the server has a small group of members and they are looking for more players who want raw vanilla survival with chaos and almost no restrictions.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPEmperium SMP Semi Anarchy Beta

Emperium SMP is a new survival server that is still in beta right now. It is meant to be a semi anarchy style server with some plugins.
At the moment the only thing open is the anarchy server. The owners say they are working a lot to add more game modes later.
People of all ages can join here. There is freedom to play how you want but obvious bully behavior is not allowed. So you can still have chaos but without people being toxic on purpose.
If you want a fresh server that is just starting and you like a semi anarchy style this is the kind of place you might want to try.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPBlue Hat SMP Cracked Survival

Blue Hat SMP is a cracked survival server where you can just hop in and play with your friends.
You can join with cracked accounts and with official accounts so pretty much anyone can get on. The server is online all the time so you do not have to wait for the owner to log in.
The rules are simple. You can do whatever you want as long as you are not cheating. That means no hacks and no unfair stuff but you still have a lot of freedom to play your own way.
The community feels active and there are people around to talk to and play with. It looks like a chill place if you just want to survive build and hang out with others on an SMP world.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPNew Dawn SMP Vanilla Survival

New Dawn SMP is a vanilla survival server that is built to last for a long time. The world is planned to run for about 8 to 12 months so you actually get time to finish big bases and towns instead of restarting all the time.
The server is whitelisted and uses an honor system so people are expected to be trustworthy. There is no griefing no stealing and no toxic behavior allowed. It is a friendly and mature community that still feels really chill. Players help lead projects and work together on builds and towns.
There is a diamond based economy with shopping districts gaming areas and minigame spots. The server uses Vanilla Tweaks datapacks and Armor Poser plus a timber plugin that makes chopping trees easier but still feels close to normal vanilla.
Players can join survival minigames and Minecraft events and there are also game nights for other games too. The Discord chat is linked to the server so people can talk whether they are in game or not.
The server supports Java and Bedrock and is meant for people around 16 and up who want a relaxed but ambitious SMP where their time and builds really matter.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPOLDDATA 1.13 – Tiny World Survival

This server feels like going back in time to when Minecraft was way more simple. It runs on version 1.13 and the owner is trying to copy the old console edition vibe.
The world is only 1000 by 1000 so resources are limited and everyone has to share and fight over stuff. You can do PVP here but you are not supposed to act like a total jerk about it.
There are some basic rules. No racism no homophobia and no weird sexual stuff is allowed. The server is supposed to be open 24 7 and it can hold up to 20 players at a time.
It is a small island type world and it feels like a simple chill place for people who miss the older days of Minecraft.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPNew Dawn SMP Vanilla Plus Hermit-Style

New Dawn is a vanilla plus Hermit style survival server. It is in the first season and it is all about towns megabuilds trading and shared projects. The world feels like a big community project instead of everyone hiding in their own base.
The server runs Minecraft 1.21.11 and supports both Java and Bedrock players so more friends can join together. It uses minimal plugins so the game still feels like normal Minecraft with extra quality of life.
The community is friendly and pretty active. People here care about creativity and they like working together on big builds and making the world look alive.
The rules are clear. No griefing no stealing and no toxicity. If you like Hermitcraft style SMP with economies huge builds and community storytelling this server fits that style.
The server is looking for players who are 16 or older who want to join a chill survival world and help it grow.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPKind Anarchy SMP With No Toxic Kids

This is an anarchy style SMP that is trying really hard to not be toxic.
You can join if you like chaos and freedom but you still think of yourself as a good person.
The owner made this because they had trouble finding a non toxic community so they want people who are chill and not rude.
If you want anarchy without people acting horrible this server is for you.Website
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPRefinedVanilla True Anarchy Survival

This server is called RefinedVanilla and it is a true vanilla anarchy world. There are basically no rules except you cannot use hacked clients. You can build bases destroy stuff explore far away and try weird experiments. It tries to stay exactly how Mojang made Minecraft so it feels like singleplayer but with other people.
The owner uses Fabric so the game keeps real vanilla mechanics. Redstone works like it should. TNT chains and piston machines act like singleplayer. Tick timings stay the same so technical players can make farms and machines without everything breaking.
The performance is tuned a lot. The server changes simulation distance mobcaps and render distance while people are online. This keeps it running smooth even when more players join.
There are a few gameplay notes. The nether roof is allowed so you can travel super fast. Chunk trailing is patched. Portal chunkloaders will work but they stop when no player is close in either dimension.
If you want a server that feels like real vanilla Minecraft with almost total freedom this one is pretty close.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPExtract SMP – Pure Vanilla Survival

This is a vanilla smp called Extract smp
It is really simple and it feels like normal Minecraft
There are no addons and no pay to win stuff so everyone is equal
The only rule is no hacking so it keeps things fair and chill
The players on here seem fun and nice
It feels like the kind of place where you just hop on and play survival with random people who like the same thing
If you just want a normal survival world with other people this server fits that perfectly
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP
