I found a long term survival realm that stays mostly vanilla but adds a few careful extras so it still feels normal.
It has a custom money system with NPC shops and you can also make your own shops that are protected. People can make towns or group bases with friends and just build and explore at their own pace.
There are optional boosts like extra hearts and movement speed. They also use a gravestone system so your items are protected when you die.
The rules are clear and they actually enforce them. No hacking no griefing no stealing and no unwanted PvP. The community is mostly adults and there are no activity requirements. Discord is required so you can keep up with events and updates.
Long Term Vanilla Realm With Shops

GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPUneasyVanilla Semi Anarchy Survival Chaos

UneasyVanilla is a vanilla survival server with a semi anarchy vibe. It feels like a place where you can do your own thing and still run into other players in random ways.
The world is over 4 years old so it has a lot of history. Spawn is totally messed up and griefed and your first spawn drops you into a maze of lavacasts. If you can escape then you can start exploring and building a real base.
It is not full anarchy though since there are still some rules. Staff watch for cheaters and they ban them fast. They also care about keeping the server running smooth so the world does not get ruined by lag.
If you want survival with danger and big builds and maybe alliances too then this server is worth a try. It is chill most of the time but it can turn wild fast.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPMovecraftia WarshipCraft Fleet Warfare Beta

Movecraftia also called WarshipCraft is a server that is built around Movecraft first. It is focused on making huge ships and moving them for real. There is even a screenshot showing engines at full throttle with smoke so you can see the craft working.
The server is operational but still in beta. Most bugs are said to be patched and they are working on balance plus shops. There is a current shop you can use in game.
The world is a 1 to 4500 scale Earth map and it has IRL accurate ore distribution. The staff team is active and they say they do not use anticheat software. Cheating is the one rule they enforce hard and the rest can be flexible for RP with fun penalties sometimes. They also say they do not censor builds.
Native version is 1.21.4 on Paper with Java 21 and any 1.21.x can join. Java Bedrock and cracked players are all supported.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP
