HomesteadCraft is a Java SMP that is for adults only and it is 21+. It is meant to be chill with no drama and no kids and there is no required playtime.
The map is 4 years old and it does not reset. It just expands with each update so people can build huge projects and keep them.
It runs on Java 1.21.11 with a few QOL plugins and most of them can be toggled off if you want. There is one player sleep and the server is on normal difficulty.
There are resource worlds for the overworld and nether and the End. The End world resets weekly.
You can also find a player run shopping district plus a gaming island. There are extras like aura skills acuteloot and anti grief claims.
