I found a small Towny and SMP server that is all about chilling and building. The main rule vibe is no griefing and no stealing so people can relax and work on towns without stress.
It stays the same world with no resets ever. The community is welcoming and you can usually find players around since people are active across AU EU and US timezones.
You can claim land and grow a town with Towny. There are Jobs and MCMMO plus an in game ranking system. It also has Dynmap so you can see the world. For trading it has player warps and player shops plus a server shop that is sell only.
It runs on 1.21.x and it also supports Bedrock with a port listed.
Chill Towny SMP With No Grief
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPVanilla Build SMP With Cozy Events
Build together vibesbuilder friendly rulesCasual cooperative playlaid back smpsocial survival server
This is a UK hosted SMP with players from a bunch of time zones. It is survival and it sticks close to vanilla so it still feels like normal Minecraft.
It has a few light quality of life tweaks that help with building. They do not change the core gameplay so it stays simple and familiar.
The community runs regular events and they do movie nights every Sunday. They also use simple voice chat and the Discord stays pretty active with chats and voice calls.
It feels friendly and welcoming and it is still growing. It is best for long term players who like building and hanging out.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP