I found HighTide SMP and it is a brand new 18 plus survival crew that is trying to stay tight knit and actually social.
It is whitelist only so they want trusted players and they care about people not ruining the world. There are game nights movie nights event nights and even drinking nights so it feels more like a group than just randoms.
It supports both Java and Bedrock so you can join from different devices. They use stuff like graves so you do not lose your items and tree chop to make wood faster. There is a live map and CoreProtect to help stop stealing and griefing.
They also have chest refill after 5 minutes so other players can grab loot too. PvP is a toggle so you can turn duels on or off.
They plan to start the world on the first Saturday once 30 people have joined so getting in early matters.
