I found Banana Sandwich SMP Season 3 and it is an 18+ survival server on Java 1.21.11. The world is about 2 months in so you are not stuck in the early grind. There is already infrastructure and an active shopping area plus a safe Mushroom Island hub.
This server makes proximity voice chat required so people actually talk while playing and it feels more real. The economy is diamond based and it is all player run with shops.
It also has some nice extra stuff like invisible item frames custom armor stands and you can sit and ride. There is a Bluemap too so you can see the world. They say it is zero pay to win and more about chill building and teamwork.
Dragon drops elytra is on and elytra will be obtainable after the end opens in about 2 weeks.
Banana Sandwich SMP Season 3 18+
Cooperative Building FocusEstablished spawn hubinteractive world mapJava Edition ServerVoice Chat Required
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPNew Season Vanilla Plus Whitelist SMP
crossplay java bedrockHermit style buildsOrigins powers modeSurvival grind okayvanilla-plus gameplay
The New Life SMP is a whitelist community survival server for players 16+ and it is going into a new season.
It is a vanilla plus setup on Minecraft 1.21 to 1.21.11 and it supports both Java and Bedrock. The server keeps it simple and avoids bloat commands like teleporting or home or ender chest commands.
People say the community is small and friendly and kind and it feels like a HermitCraft style server. It has been getting more popular lately with around 20 to 30 players online on weekends and sometimes weekdays.
This new season is slightly modded with the Origins mod and nothing is required on your client so Bedrock can still join. There is also Simple voice chat to make talking in game feel more real.
To play you have to fill out a whitelist application and they are looking for active and mature members who want to meet people and stick around.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP