I found NostalgiaCraft and it is a vanilla style SMP that is trying to feel like old Minecraft with friends. It keeps stuff simple so it does not feel bloated and it focuses on normal survival and building.
Griefing is against the rules and the server has a protected spawn plus rollback help if something goes wrong. The world has been running since 2020 and they say there are no resets so builds can stay for the long run.
The map is huge with a 300k by 300k border and it is on dedicated hardware with the goal of staying at 20 TPS. There is a vanilla economy vibe with player shops and trading and no extra currency plugins.
It also has a graylist system so you can join and play right away. Spawn is protected in a 1400 by 1400 area for trusted members and outside of that is survival. It supports Bedrock too and it just updated to 1.21.11.
Vanilla SMP With No Resets
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPRen’s Tavern Vanillaish Chill SMP 1.21.11
Ren’s Tavern is a vanilla-ish survival server running on 1.21.11 and it lets both Java and Bedrock players join. It feels like a small chill place where people just want to play Minecraft and have a good time.
It uses plugins like custom discs plus a square map and Discord integration and Simple Voice Chat. The server is also planning a player made shopping area and some fun community events so it has that hangout vibe.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP