Lavender SMP is a Java server on version 1.21.11 and it is set to hard mode. It is whitelisted and it is 18+ and LGBTQ+ friendly.
The community is close knit and they like building and chatting. If people are in voice you can hop in and talk too since it uses Simple Voice Chat.
It also has some quality of life stuff like AFK Display and anti enderman grief. There are fun collection extras too like more mob heads player head drops mini blocks and double shulker shells. DiscordSRV is on so chat can connect with Discord.
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