I found this server called Chilltown and it is a calm survival SMP with a really cozy vibe. It feels very close to vanilla but without a lot of chaos or pay to win stuff.

The server has been running since 2019 and the current world has grown over time with player towns farms and projects. It looks like the kind of place where people actually stay and build long term instead of resetting all the time.

There is a custom handcrafted world instead of just random terrain. The world also has seasons that change how everything looks which makes it feel more alive.

Chilltown has custom mobs weapons tools and enchants but they are balanced and not super overpowered. You can claim land using a simple chunk system so your builds stay safe.

The community is mostly adults and it seems very respectful and laid back. It is good for players who like to play survival at their own pace. You can play solo and still have fun.

New players get a starter kit daily rewards and there is an optional tutorial to help you get started. The server runs on Java 1.21.11 which is the latest version right now.