I found Lounge SMP and it is a semi vanilla survival server on 1.21.11. It feels like normal Survival but with some custom features that stay simple.
The world is meant to last forever and there is a small world border. People mostly hangout build stuff and just play at a chill pace.
The server also says it has anti grief and strong anti cheat. There are jobs rewards crates and give aways too. Bedrock players can join as well.
Chill Semi Vanilla Survival SMP 1.21.11
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PeaMC is a survival SMP that tries to feel like classic Minecraft again. You do not get teleports and there are no land claims. It is meant for surviving traveling building and meeting people the normal way.
It is whitelist only so it is harder for trolls to get in. The community is chill and the owner and mods are active in Minecraft and Discord.
The server supports crossplay for Java and Bedrock from 1.7x to 1.21.11. You can form teams and invite friends. PvP is allowed but griefing stealing from bases killing pets and spawn killing are not allowed.
New players get PvP disabled for one day so you do not get farmed right away and it can be turned off. Destructive PvP like TNT beds respawn anchors end crystals and minecart PvP is not allowed since it can wreck builds. Maces are banned too. Hacks and exploits plus harassment and slurs are not allowed.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPPulsar SMP Semi Vanilla Survival
Pulsar SMP is a semi vanilla survival server that feels active and community driven. It is the kind of place where pvpers builders and casual players can all fit in.
The server talks a lot about fair play. There is good moderation and they say there is no admin abuse.
There are frequent events and competitions so the world does not feel stale. The community can be competitive but still chill.
There is also a custom plugin with 10 elemental swords. You can get rewards for completing advancements too.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP