I found a Survival Bedrock Realm that keeps the vanilla feeling but adds some extra stuff to make it more fun.
It is a survival world with an essential add on plus plots and shops so you can build your own place and trade with other players.
The community is big with over 1,000 people in the Discord and it keeps growing. They also talk about daily updates and giveaways so there is usually something going on.
Casual Bedrock Survival Realm With Shops
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPSemi Vanilla SMP Starting Soon
I found a small semi vanilla SMP that is in testing right now
They plan to fully start in about a week so it feels like a good time to jump in early and get ready with everyone
It is meant to stay close to normal Minecraft while still being a SMP with a small group vibeGG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPCozy Long Term Survival No Drama
CozyCraft is a calm survival server where people build for the long run. It feels more old school and it is made for players who like slow and careful progress.
The server is cooperative and there is no PvP. It also has a forever world so there are no map resets or seasonal wipes.
It keeps things mostly vanilla with minimal plugins and it does not do pay to win stuff. It seems like a good place if you want a laid back community and big building projects over time.
You can join on Java or Bedrock.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP