I found a server where death actually matters a lot. You get one life and if you die you are banned forever. Your stuff stays on the ground and your base stays in the world so someone else can take it.
It is an anarchy server with no rules. There are no protected zones and no resets. The world just keeps going even when people get wiped.
Every player you see could be a friend or the one who ends your run. When someone dies everyone sees it and that makes it super intense.
It runs on Java 1.21.1 and Bedrock can join too using Geyser.

