I found HighTide SMP and it is a brand new 18 plus survival server with a small crew vibe where people actually talk and connect.
It is whitelist only so you have to apply and they say they want trusted players. The server supports both Java and Bedrock so you can join from pretty much any device.
They do game nights and movie nights plus event nights and even drinking nights. For plugins it has graves so you can get your stuff back. It also has tree chop and a dynmap you can check in a browser. CoreProtect is there to stop griefing. Chests refill after five minutes so other people can loot too. You can also toggle PvP on or off.
They plan to start the world on the first Saturday after they hit 30 members so joining early means you help shape how it all starts.
