I found Rainbow Unity and it is an SMP that just updated to 1.21.11. It feels like a place where you can settle in and actually stay for a while.
You can claim land so your builds feel safe. The server pushes you to grow with a rankup system and perks so you always have something to work toward.
There are quests to do and custom items to chase. You can open crates for rare gear and pick up daily rewards which makes logging in feel worth it.
If you like building an empire and grinding upgrades with other players around this server is trying to be that kind of home.
Rainbow Unity SMP Rankups and Land Claims

GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPSmithtainment Gaming Vanilla-ish Survival SMP

I found this survival server called Smithtainment Minecraft and it feels like a real home online. They have been running games for over ten years so it feels pretty stable and well made. The server is on hard mode and it still feels kind of vanilla but with a bunch of extra quality of life stuff.
There are jobs you can take and you can level up skills and fight stronger mobs. There is a resource world so the main world does not get wrecked. Mobs and spawners can stack and there are both server shops and player shops so you can trade a lot. You can also set up player warps and use commands like rtp home and sethome which makes exploring way easier.
If you die you meet this fairy who lets you buy back your items which is actually pretty cool because hard mode can be rough. There are playtime ranks that give you more perks the longer you stay so it rewards people who stick around. The spawn area is custom built and looks really nice and there is a PvP arena under it for people who want to fight.
There are custom Ender Dragon fights so you can team up with other players and take her down together. The community seems really welcoming and they help new players when they join. The server runs on Minecraft Java version 1.21.10 so it is updated and ready for new adventures.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP
