I found a vanilla survival server called Haven SMP and it is still pretty new since it has only been around for a couple months. It is made for players who want a long term world where your builds and choices actually matter.
It sticks close to true vanilla so there are no game breaking plugins. The economy is player driven with shops and trading so it grows naturally from what players do.
There are no protected claims so it relies on people choosing peace. The rules are strict and the staff is active so griefing stealing and harassment are not allowed. Fair play is for everyone and they say there is no favoritism.
Java and Bedrock can play together and there is optional proximity voice chat. There are also a few free quality of life things like graves that hold your items for a short time after you die plus some fun commands like sit spin and hat.
They want a world with no map resets ever so joining early means you can help shape the history.
