Lavender SMP is a whitelist server that is 18+ and LGBTQ+ friendly. It is Java only and it is on version 1.21.11. The server is on hardmode and it just restarted so it feels fresh.
It has some quality of life mods and simple voice chat. The community is close knit and likes building and talking. If people are in voice and you hop in too you can join the chat.
There are datapacks and plugins like AFK display anti enderman grief more mob heads player head drops mini blocks double shulker shells tpa and DiscordSRV.
