I found a whitelisted modded server running Craftoria. It is meant for people who want a more controlled community and you join through their Discord.
The server is up 24 7 and it restarts every day at 6 AM. There is an admin around to help when you need it.
They also add mods based on suggestions which is pretty cool. The main language on the server is french.
Rise of Kingdoms is a Bedrock realm that feels like a heavy RPG server where people build up kingdoms and live like a society.
You can join a kingdom and play along with the rules or you can go your own way and be a bandit or an anarchist who hates the whole system.
It uses add ons to make things easier and it has an economy system plus an RPG system. There are voice channels for people who would rather talk than type.
The realm is still pretty new and there are less than 10 people so far so it is a good time to start something and try to set up your own kingdom early.
You must be over 18 with no exceptions. You also have to join the Discord and be active often.
Rise of Kingdoms is a Bedrock realm that goes heavy on RPG stuff and kingdom life. You can join a kingdom and be part of the society or you can reject it and play as a bandit or an anarchist type.
The realm uses add ons that keep things easier and it has an economy system plus an RPG system. There are voice channels so people can talk without typing.
It is a new realm with less than 10 people so far so it feels like the start of something. The big rule is you must be over 18 and you have to join the discord and stay active often.
I found a group called Kingdom Of Croatia on the Polaris server and they are trying to grow into a strong country with a solid community.
They want people who like big building projects and also people who want to fight wars and help expand their land.
They are aiming for a friendly mixed language vibe since the Discord is half Croatian and half English so it feels open to anyone.
They are mainly looking for PVP players builders editors and miners. They also want loyal responsible members and they plan to do events.
This is a Minecraft server that is still being built and the team is trying to make it long term and really high quality. They are looking for volunteer staff who want to stick around and help it grow.
They are accepting all roles like helpers and moderators plus admins. Developers are a high priority and so is a content team for stuff like skins models and textures and other custom assets.
Everyone starts as a Helper unless you can prove strong experience. They say it is to build trust keep it fair and make sure people fit the team.
They want staff who are active reliable and good with teamwork. For devs they prefer plugin experience with Paper or Spigot and Java is a big plus.
The Den SMP is a vanilla inspired survival server made only for players who are 18+. It is whitelisted and you have to do a short application. The vibe is meant to be mature and respectful so people can chill and play without drama.
The server has a Survival Guide that helps you find everything fast. There are vanilla inclusive cosmetics and custom tags. You can also check weekly monthly and all time leaderboards and do daily tasks that reset every 24 hours.
They run weekly events plus community events. There is CoreProtect to help with griefing or stealing. There is also Dynmap so you can look around and find homes shops and towns. Mobdex lets you hunt rare variants of vanilla mobs and fill up your encyclopedia.
I found a paid Java server that has been kept running for years by the owner. It is a super small place right now and it is mainly for two people who just want more friends to play with.
It uses a really lightweight Modrinth modpack so it stays simple and not heavy. The vibe is chill and a little awkward at first since it is basically just them right now.
They are both 18 plus and would rather you are too but it is not required if you think you can handle it. You join their Discord so they can help you get set up.
The Ritual SMP is a competitive PvP survival server where the big goal is fighting and getting stronger without having to grind all day.
It has a custom plugin that lets you create legendary weapons at special altars that are spread around the world so you will be exploring and running into people.
There are also multiple custom events plus a bunch of quality of life plugins to make playing smoother.
The rules try to limit the kit so most players can fight with similar gear and it does not turn into who can grind the most.
You will need to get whitelisted by joining their Discord and posting your IGN in the whitelist channel.
This server is all about a war torn world where only a few people are left. It has this dark end of the world vibe where everyone is trying to find allies and survive what is left.
The big hook is the Lazarus chip idea. If you get killed and nobody saves you in time you snap back to your last friendly base with your gear still on. So fights stay intense and people keep coming back ready to push again.
It feels like a smaller ongoing war with groups forming up and hunting each other down. If you want in you have to apply and you must be in the Discord server.