Lavender Meadows is a whitelisted survival server on hard difficulty for players 18 and up. It is also lgbtq+ friendly and it feels like a close knit group that likes to build and talk.
It runs on Java and uses Simple Voice Chat so people can hang out in game. The server also has quality of life stuff like AFK Display and Anti Enderman Grief.
There are fun extras like More Mob Heads plus Player Head Drops and mini blocks. You also get Double Shulker Shells and DiscordSRV is there too.
The version is 1.21.11 and the vibe is to join in when people are chatting and just be part of the community.
Lavender Meadows Hardmode Voice Chat SMP
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I found a server called MCVerse that is made for long term survival and big projects. The main idea is no reset and no grief so you can take long breaks and not worry about your stuff.
It is classic survival grind with no custom items enchants or skills. You can trade with player markets to skip some grinding or you can play fully solo style like a single player world. You can rank up for free just by playing and the perks are free.
The community tries to keep chat clean and swearing is not really welcome. Public chat is meant for Minecraft topics and gaming.
There are a few different places to play. The permanent survival world is on 1.21.10 and it has things like claims a map markets clans and fishing contests. There is also a hardcore vanilla option on 1.21.10 with no grief. There is a vanilla mode on 1.21.11 with smaller claims and worlds that last about 6 to 12 months. If you just want to test builds there is creative plots on 1.21.8 and it supports litematica pasting.
Gameplay stays almost purely vanilla but there are some teleports and optional quality of life stuff. Builders also get decoration tools like armor stands mini blocks and heads. The world is big and permanent and newer generation like Pale Gardens has been added into the main world naturally. The server has been online for two years and the players are from lots of ages.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP