This server is called Five Fate SMP and it feels really intense. Everyone only gets 5 lives so every fight actually matters. When you lose a fight you do not just die instantly. You can get downed instead and then you have 10 seconds for someone to save you.
The server is very pvp focused and people can steal your loot. Raiding bases is allowed and there is griefing but they try to keep it to a minimum. If you hide your base really far away like around 500 blocks it is fair game if someone finds it.
The owners say it is friendly for streamers and youtubers. They want more than 20 players so it feels alive. It is meant for players who are 16 or older and who like risky pvp and stressful survival.
If you want a server where trust is hard and every life is important this one seems pretty cool.

